is age really nothing but a number?

Dear Adey 

I have been dating for the past year and it's just been a roller coaster, my boyfriend and I quarrel over every little thing. He never has his priorities straight and I feel like I am dating a child. we never seem to agree and he takes life as a joke. Although he is very matured for his age and I think that's why we fell in love in the first place but sometimes my inner self tells me all this fights and disagreement has a lot to do with his age. He just turned 20 this march and I will be 33 in October. Your advice will be well appreciated.

Deb

Hello Deb

i am so sorry for your stress but i honestly have an issue with the age difference. i think that is where a majority of the stress is coming from. I know not everyone will agree with me but you asked for my opinion so i will give it to you.

i think your partner is at a stage of life very different from you. he is at the exploration stage of life where he wants to experience everything firsthand. Maybe that is why you think he takes life as a joke. You on the other hand might have been there and done that already. i want to believe that you are a working class lady probably looking to settle down soon, start a family and grow your career while your partner on the other hand is probably still in college trying to finish up his degree or maybe he is working. Regardless he is a kid  and will always act like one till he gets a bit older and gets more experiences out of life. 

if you really love him regardless of the age, i think you have to allow him be himself which sometimes involves him displaying child like behaviors.  Honestly even a guy older than you could also give you that same amount of stress although i will still go for an older/mature man  thou, emphasis on the word "mature" but the choice is ultimately yours.  if he makes you really happy then work things out but if the stress is affecting your peace then girl say good bye.

PS. just incase you go with the latter, i will advise that you find yourself someone who is on the same head space as you are in or even someone more mature when it comes to experiences and life. it might help out and make a difference. Just Saying

I hope i was able to help you out

Regards

Adey