Even the worse person has a good side

I was discussing with a friend last week and she was telling me how someone had hurt her so much in the past about 5 years ago and sometime this year, she met a friend who also knew the individual. Both of them had completely different opinions about the person.

My friend felt, the individual in question was really mean and selfish. She basically called the individual every bad name you could thing of while her friend felt this individual was an angel.

The question she asked me was this. How can people pretend so much that others think they are good people when in truth they are terrible? My response was; this individual in question could have changed. 5 years is a very long time to start afresh. I remember her response was "people never change". We went back and forth over the issue and i remember telling her that the best she could do was not to destroy what the individual had built since she had not seem the person in five 5 years and she was not certain if the individual was pretending or not.

That conversation is what todays discussion is all about.

Good people sometimes make bad decisions. They mess up and let others down but that doesn't make them bad people. we all make mistakes. I certainly do not know if this individual in question is good or bad. I mean who am i to even judge. I am probably good to some and i guess bad to some. You can't really tell. Sometimes we hurt people unknowingly. Sometimes we hurt them fully aware but maybe we were just being childish and stupid.

I am of the opinion that if someone who has hurt you is remorseful and has asked for your forgiveness, Go ahead and forgive the person. Sometimes, they may not even ask, still forgive and move on.

We meet people at different stages in our lives and those stages reflect how we act. The older we become, we realize our mistakes and rebrand ourselves to be better people and there is nothing wrong with that. It is not pretending, rather it is working towards becoming a better self and it is allowed anywhere in the world.

Someone who hurt you in the past can be an angel today or tomorrow and even if you do not believe them, don't hurt them in return by destroying all the work they put towards improving themselves.

Imagine if you were constantly judged through out your life by your past mistakes, how would you feel?

Let us learn to give people the benefit of a doubt and watch out for their actions.  If their new attitude reflects a good personality, then erase their past memory and acknowledge who they have become.

I know its hard but let love always prevail.


Yours Truly

Adey