Is the pettiness really worth it?

Was it really worth all the fighting?

• Do you look back at situations in your life and wonder what could have happened if you handled the situation differently?
• What could have happened if you didn't assume the worse of the other person? 
• What could have happened if you didn't just give up too soon?
• What could have happened if you reached out to the other person even when you were upset just to get an explanation from whomever offended you?
• Did you even give the other person an opportunity to explain?
• Even after an explanation from the other person, did you accept it?
• Did you forgive and move on?
• Do the people that offended you even know that you are upset at them? 

Just like any other good thing, good relationships require hard work, trust and forgiveness over and over again. Life is too short to spend all of it in anger and unforgiveness.  Holding on to unforgiveness cripples the body and it could be the worse sickness ever known to mankind. Harboring negative emotions like anger and hatred creates a state of chronic anxiety which produces excess adrenaline and cortisol which further depletes the production of natural killer cells, which is our body's foot soldier. Anger and hatred could be worse than any form of cancer.

So I ask you again? Is the pettiness really worth your happiness, joy, peace and good health?

Would you rather live an unfulfilled life just because someone wronged you?
 It doesn't not matter what was done or said, your joy, peace, happiness and good health far surpasses the pain and sadness that comes with the hatred you carry

You deserve to be happy and be free from he bondage holding you down.

Research shows that over 50% of destroyed relationships stem from petty issues and un-forgiveness. Have you really sat down to take an audit of what is really causing you this pain?

Why are you staying upset?

Don't get me wrong, It is ok to get upset but staying upset is wrong and petty. Keeping malice is childish.

If the person in question that made you so mad is dear to you, I encourage you to reach out and express your feeling. Trust me, it would make you feel much better.  When you forgive, you will find peace within you. Anger is a burden and until you let go, you will remain sick.

Be the bigger person and forgive.

It doesn't matter if it is your partner, friend, parent, sibling, co-worker or neighbor. Let us all learn to reach out and speak out our mind when we are offended by the people we care about. They are worth it

I hope you find the courage to put your ego and pain aside and reach out to whoever offended you, if you still care about them thou.  Do it for the sake of the relationship and if that is not big enough for you, at least save yourself

Regards

Adey