My husband and i constantly have misunderstanding over money issues. we have been married just 9 months and i do not know if i can deal with all of these. He spends money without thinking. we have a lot of debts and he does not really care how it gets paid. i am so worried that we are not saving for a lot of things. I am really tired and its frustrating. is there something i could do and does this happen to other married couples?
Thank you
Sharon
Hey Sharon
You are not alone. Almost every married couple at some point in time in their lives have had to deal with money issues. I am of the opinion that it is one of those test that every married couple must pass. its so sad that you are just 9 months into it and you are already overwhelmed but the good news is that this too shall pass. There is no permanent storm in any marriage, sunshine is bound to happen.
Here are a few things that you can do;
You need to look for a way to sit your husband down and tell him how you feel. Let him know how frustrating and insecure it makes you feel whenever he spends moneys without a plan. Be calm about it because men can be very defensive.
Help set up a monthly budget for the family and ask him for inputs. You might be able to help him discover a few things during this process
if you have a job, start saving your own money and show him by example.
if you happen to be a woman of faith, Pray about it and God will touch his heart.
Finally just do anything within your power to save for the family, even if it requires taking money from him to do it. He will be glad you did at the end of the day.
Hope my 2 cents of advice helped out.
Hopefully we have readers who can help out with more advice
All the best Sharon
Kind Regards
Adey
Dear Yinka,
ReplyDeleteI am indeed impressed by your response to Sharon and would like to add that you have to be patient with him like she said and you begin to save from what you have (and perhaps what you can get off him). Not all marriages are the same and there is no specific solution to issues we face in our marriages but we can give ourselves to multitude of good and godly counsel. Above all that is said, you have to know your partner for who he is and pray if you can for God to give him wisdom.
great point Abiola. Thank you
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