Have you ever had your heart so broken that you feel so worthless? i feel like everything is working against me. i can't even get anything together. i haven't gone to work in 2 weeks. i am so sick to my stomach. i have been dating this guy for 5 years. We have 2 kids together. Recently he started acting weird only for me to find out he was dating someone else. He told me that our relationship wasn't working out and that we should just look for a way to co-parent together. shortly after he broke the news to me, he went ahead and proposed to the other lady. i am all messed up
Dear Dee
Wow.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. No one ever prays for this. i will try to keep it straight and as short as possible. Yes i have had my heart broken and i will share a bit of my story just incase it helps you feel better. Few years ago, I was dating some guy in another country and i relocated to be with him. i left my Job, 2 successful businesses and my family for the man of my dreams supposedly.... Less than 6 months into the relationship, he was seeing someone lese. I also felt worthless at the time. my case was definitely bad because he was the only one i knew in this new location. i had no one to talk too. Family members were thousands of miles away. The only saving grace for me at time was that i was also studying. Thankfully i had accommodation on campus so i wasn't stranded. I had borrowed him part of my tuition and it was impossible to get it back which made me financially stranded. (Stupid of me i know) we have all been there. i cried every night and almost gave up on my education to return to my home country but somehow i gathered all the strength left in me and i decided to push further and focus on my education. it was a horrible time for me, trust me. i didn't even wanna share my story at the time with anyone because i didn't want to remember how stupid my decisions were. Long story short, i regained my confidence bit by bit, went through my masters program and graduated with a perfect 4.0 GPA. i started dating after a year or so and now i am happily married.
How did i do it? i cried to God everyday and asked him to heal my heart. Slowly but surely it happened. i listened to inspiring music, read books and listened to a lot of motivational messages. I know you are going through so much pain but trust me when i say this to you. You will feel better really soon. give yourself time and don't be ashamed to cry. Also with time try and find the strength to forgive him and forgive yourself. I need you to be strong for your kids. They need you now more than ever. your actions are going to determine how their future will turn out. Please consider them in all you do.
I know this culture doesn't really care if you are married or not to the father of your child. we are used to baby mama and baby daddy but i think you might have felt a lot better if you were married to him when this happened. The fact that he didn't marry the mother of his kids and chose another lady makes it even more painful but guess what? it is not the end of the world. you will get through this slowly but surely. BTW, i need you to go back to work as soon as possible. you need all the money you can get to raise your kids. In due time, karma will play its card on him. it did with my ex.
Also do not give up on love. if there is anything, I believe you are wiser than you were 5 years ago
Let go and let God take control of your heart. you will be fine.
God bless your heart Dee.
kind regards
Adey
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